(scroll to read the ridiculous raves & rants of a non-binary psycho)
Over the past couple years, some common questions I've been asked are...
-Are you transitioning? (Am I transexual)
-Are you transgender?
-What is non-binary?
-Is it gay to be attracted to you?
-How are babies made? (kidding)
There is no short answer or easy explanation to how I would identify myself into society's gender rules or terminologies. Before I digress about my own perceptions and expressions of my gender, I want to make sure we all know the differences between sex, gender, and sexuality. I'm sorry for being extra, but being familiar with these concepts is a prerequisite to discussing gender identity.
Sex: Describes the physical body parts you are born with. There are undisputable differences between the physiological makeup of men and women (reproductive organs, hormones, chromosomes, etc.). Individuals born with both sex organs are called intersexed.
Gender: These are the socially constructed attributes we assign to the sexes. Our perceptions of what makes a person male or female are formed psychologically when we identify commonalities and differences between males and females around us.
Think about this!! Some examples of female gender attributes are long hair, wearing dresses/skirts, or wearing makeup. But does wearing a skirt or makeup serve any fundamental function for life such as breathing, eating or communicating? Skirts are not worn so the babies can pop out easier. There is no practical utility or reason for skirts to be specific to females, other than because humans have traditionally said so.
That being said, there are cognitive associations created in the human mind about gender. That skirt for instance, is inherently tied with a persons experiences of who was wearing it. These associations of gender can theoretically impact a person both mentally and physically similarly to Pavlovian Conditioning.
Sexuality: This is when it gets really slippery...
Heterosexuality is defined as when a person is attracted to the opposite gender and/or sex. Homosexuality is defined as when a person is attracted to the same gender and/or sex. Modern views on sexuality are trending towards sexual orientation being defined by the gender a person is attracted to (not the sex), which supports the idea that a straight-identifying man can be attracted to a pre-op transwoman without society labeling him as homosexual.
Here is an entire book on the differences between sex, gender, and sexuality in case you want to read into it more - "Gender, Sex, and Sexuality: Contemporary Psychological Perspectives"
This article dives deep into sexuality and gender- "Doing Gender, Doing Heteronormativity: 'Gender Normals,' Transgender People, and the Social Maintenance of Heterosexuality"
I personally identify as a non-binary gender-fluid transgender person.
I do not fit perfectly into the archetypes or labels for gender.
I am gender non-conforming, and can express masculinity or femininity separately.
I started hormone replacement therapy for a very short period of time
I am not transitioning to become the opposite sex. Therefore, I am not transexual.
I am transgender in the sense that I do not identify as the gender I was assigned at birth.
My pronouns are "They/Them" but I am comfortable with "He/him" or "She/her" when appropriate
NO, I do not have to "pick one"
If you are a person struggling with your gender identity or considering transitioning, find trans people to speak with about it! Therapists are great, but they usually won't be able to speak from experience in these matters. I am lucky enough to have several non-binary and trans people in my life who I could relate to, and it helped me
This site has attracted an unexpectedly high amount of web traffic, and I want to make sure to be clear about my intention behind the site.
1.) ONE place to list ALL the other places you can give me money lol
I'm totally not kidding about that, but there's also plenty of free content to explore. It's all listed in a nifty slider thing on the home page.
When I find a porn performer I admire, I usually find it tough to grasp exactly where and how to explore more content of theirs. It makes you wonder why more performers don't create a simple site to help their fans find them. More than likely, this is due to the fact that many stars in the adult entertainment world work with established studios who take care of their marketing and online presence. Their studio will immediately direct you to their paid subscription site that usually costs wayyy too much money for wayyy too little content.
This kinda leads me to my next goal for the site...
2.) I want to be the gold standard for femboys, CDs, & androgynous models
And of course I'm going to need more than just myself as a model to do so. This is the goal for Sissy Princess Studios.
I want to give the public a place to find hand-picked gorgeous models who fit a certain mold- they are trans models who are not transitioning, newly transitioning, or simply just beautiful specimens of androgyny. I want to work with both trans women and trans men, non-binary individuals, and everything in between.
It's going to take long hours and lots of hard-earned money to finance, but the vision is clear to me. I have a degree in corporate communication & business, a background in tech, and over 10 years in the sex industry to help guide me. More than anything, I know how to market someone while establishing a unique selling point for their personal brand.
This is what separates Sissy Princess Studios from old-school competitors:
3.) Get to know me
I'm more than a big booty with a wig on. My biggest fear is being perceived as someone who is mocking the trans community in any way. I am a member and advocate of the community who is on my own journey.